The pertinent particulars on me:

The fact is you will hire a coach and a human will show up, but my training and commitment to your success will keep the focus on you in a way that you may have never experienced. Here is the point: coaching (as the coach or the client) is the culmination of all of our life’s experiences and how we experience coaching is how we experience life. Simple and true.

Here’s another truth: I don’t have that special-somethin’-somethin’ to fix you. You are not broken unless I create damage to sell myself as a savior or you create damage to let me.

• If your inner inner critic just pushed play on the old tape titled, “See I told you, we don’t need no stickin’ help!”

  Hello inner critic, nice to meet you. I hear you are skeptical about coaching and think that anyone who reaches out for support or guidance is a wuss, lazy, whiny, asking for trouble, rocking the boat – blah, blah, blah. Well thanks for sharing and let me channel my inner Dr. Phil and say “How is that workin’ for ya?”

  Here is where you and I agree. You don’t NEED anyone, everything you need is inside you. We also agree that you don’t need ME, I am not the ONLY one who can save you (Star Wars reference’s aside). Where we part company, inner critic, is the “how” – how to access what is inside us, how to make the change. Isolating ourselves is punishment and forcing ourselves to work harder doing the same things over and over is insanity. One way, among many, to access what is inside is the process and collaboration of coaching.

  Read This. Or if that inner critic pushed play on the tape titled, “Are you crazy? I am broken and someone else has to fix me!”

  Hey there inner critic, sounds like you cannot stop repeating the Humpty Dumpty nursery rhyme:

  Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall
  Humpty Dumpty had a great fall
  All the kings’ horses and all the kings’ men
  Couldn’t put Humpty together again

  How many people, places or things (or kings men) have you looked to with the fervent hope that they would be the answer, especially relishing the ones who validated and perpetuated your victimhood, only to resent them sooner or later for pointing out your flaws and not being capable of putting you back together again? Here is the truth, you are NOT broken, but you may be burdened and the biggest burden is that you BELIEVE you are broken and therefore incapable of changing yourself.

  I don’t believe that lie, I have no reason to, I am objective and it is my role as a coach to see you as whole and resourceful and capable and creative, especially when you can’t. YOU can put down the burdens and get off that wall without breaking.

  Click here. When you are done listening to your inner critic, come on back and keep reading.

The thing that gives me the willies about self promotion is false humility, so in the interest of helping you determine if we make a good fit here is what you may want to know about me:

• My name is Sunny, and while it is a nickname it is no accident:  I have invigorating and stimulating energy and at the same time I am warm and soothing.

• I am convinced that change is an iterative blend of insight-action-results (rinse, repeat). 

• I believe that I don’t need to create the wheel or a new framework or cleverly worded wisdom to be a powerfully effective coach.  I study, reflect and apply the collective wisdom of the ages, even the cleverly worded, contemporary stuff (which by the way I love!)  I dig it when my clients suggest a current self improvement book or timelessly spiritual book that we both read and use it as a foundation for coaching. (If the inner critic just pushed play again 

  Inner critic, I know you have been running this show for a while and I may seem like a threat, so I hope we can start working together soon. In the meantime, let me address your objection that you have read all kinds of self help books and none of them has done anything but run up your credit card. Remember what I said about change being an iterative blend of insight and action? If you got the insight part down but never actually APPLIED the learning or for that matter even completed the exercises in the books you were bound to stay stuck. Once you read the book AND do the book, you will have new insights leading to new action; aka growth, change or evolution, but what I like to call results (aaaah). Also while it is possible to make progress on your own, you’re missing out on two of the most powerful influences on the intensity and rate of change: collaboration and accountability (aka getting out of your own head).

  Read This).

• I choose to use three letters after my name (ACC) that indicates I have an International Coach Federation credential.  But before you get seduced into thinking that is how to evaluate my skill as a coach, know this:  Coaching is an unregulated industry, which means even though I am a proud member of the ICF I am responsible for regulating my OWN integrity and credibility, with the input of my clients.  I chose ICF accreditation because I wanted to challenge myself by completing a rigorous training process and be part of something bigger, but it ain’t all that.

• I value audacity and tradition, I am compassionate and provocative, I welcome complexity while seeking simplicity.  The theme here is that I am a Gemini and even though I don’t know squat about astrology I do know that the twins represent duality and contradiction and that is me.  I have a powerful attraction to BOTH/AND.  

• I believe that whether we want to care for the whole frickin’ world or simply our sweet piece of it, we can do more when we take care of ourselves.   In other words, co-dependency sucks but inter-dependency rocks!

• I love email (does that date me?) because it keeps the coaching process percolating between sessions and provides documentation of the genesis of change so that it can be replicated. And because it is between TWO people, demonstrating an intimacy that some social media just can’t. 

• As a family member and friend of several addicts, I have been affected by other people’s addictions and I celebrate that because it got me to face up to some of my stuff and got me into a 

  12-step programs work for some people, but not everyone and sometimes they need some supplementation.  12-step programs are simply one way of organizing the collective wisdom of the ages, they are not a cult and I will not try and convert you.

  12-step program. Here is what that means to you:  I am spiritual not religious.  I am fallible and at one time (and still sometimes) really messed up.   I have character defects and I am willing to admit to them even as I would like to deny their existence and sometimes beat myself up about them.  I believe in the power of tools and support.  I am committed to my own self care and sometimes I fail at it. The

  The Serenity Prayer

  Grant  me the serenity to accept the thing I cannot change

  The courage to change the things I can

  And the wisdom to know the difference

  Serenity Prayer really sums up how coaching can work.

• Big emotions don’t scare me AND big emotions aren’t required.

• I love the placebo effect for my body and mind:  If I believe it works, I feel better and I reinforce this belief by finding more confirming evidence.  Belief is powerful stuff!

• I have had financially-rewarding, personally-fulfilling professions as a waitress and a commercial mortgage banker and I have been equally satisfied playing and relaxing as an early retiree.

• I have weighed (physically and metaphysically) more and I have weighed less …if you count 3rd grade.

The whole point of this website and this particular page is to let you see the whole me so you can decide if we are a good fit to work together so you can judge (go ahead, it is ok) what all of the above says about me.